Alright, so I admit it, I enjoy watching the “Biggest Loser” now and then. At first I was put off by the title, but after watching it, it really seemed to change lives—who can argue with that right?
After reading a short piece in The Huffington Post about an interview with one of their star trainers, Jillian Michaels, I couldn’t help but drop my jaw when she revealed more than skin.
Although, I rarely take anything from the Hollywood Left to heart, Michaels really hit a nerve this time.
Biggest Loser’ trainer Jillian Michaels has a hard little body and she plans to keep it that way. Michaels, 36, tells Women’s Health she is unwilling to become pregnant because of the way it would change her body.
Personally, I found the trade-off in my favor, giving birth to my children can’t compare to any other accomplishment I could hope to achieve. Granted, I was never a trainer. (Although one could argue, if you’re a great trainer, you should be able to get back into shape.)
Nevertheless, that is her personal decision, and her loss. It was the statement that followed that I take issue with.
“I’m going to adopt. I can’t handle doing that to my body,” she told the [Women's Health] magazine. “Also, when you rescue something, it’s like rescuing a part of yourself.”
“When you rescue something?”
We are not talking about baby seals here. These two statements combined say more than “I’m self-centered” it says she really has no idea what being a mother actually is. If “rescuing a part of yourself,” is anywhere in the equation of becoming a parent, there is a rude awaking around the corner.
I can tell you from an adopted child’s point of view that a mother is a mother, whether you came to her by birth or adoption. It doesn’t feel any different for the child.
Parents who adopt with the attitude they are doing a child a favor, have no business adopting. It simply will not end well. The child will never live up to their expectations of gratitude for being “rescued.”
I have witnessed more than a couple families that believed they were being noble and Christian by adopting a child with a tragic background. They didn’t do the children any favors. When these children needed more love than they gave, they were sent back—or just sent away. These parents managed to only add another chapter of heartache and loss to the children’s lives.
Michaels can yell and drive contestants to change their lives, and get paid doing it—wonderful. But before trying to change the life of a child, Michaels needs to weigh the cost of self-sacrifice.