Muslim Mothers Who “Honor Kill” Their Daughters

Two Muslim mothers, both widows, both living in Uttar Pradesh in India, helped each other murder their grown daughters, Zahida, 19, and Husna, 26, for having committed the crime of marrying Hindu men.

They held their daughters down and slowly strangled them to death. The poor dead darlings actually believed they were entitled to marry non-Muslim men and for “love,” and that ultimately their mothers and Muslim community would accept them back. This is typical of many honor killing victims. While these two young women knew enough to contact the police for help—and the police actually got their mothers to sign an agreement that they would not “harm” their children—it was only a deceptive piece of paper. But the daughters’ longing for reconciliation and naive hopefulness was their undoing. Their mothers agreed not to hurt them and sweet-talked them into returning; once the girls were home, they became prey for the kill.

But life without a family network is unthinkable for someone whose identity is not individual but rather located in a collectivity. Progress and “modernity” may be coming to India, but slowly, very slowly.

Neither mother, Khatun or Subrato, has expressed the slightest remorse. Both feel justified because their daughters brought shame to their families. According to the police, Khatun said: “We killed them because they brought shame to our community. How could they elope with Hindus? They deserved to die. We have no remorse.”

This is cold-hearted, barbaric, almost unbelievable. But such Muslim-on-Muslim crimes and woman-on-woman crimes are typical in many parts of the world.

Clearly, this is an extreme case of woman’s inhumanity to woman; I published a book with that title. We expect women, mothers especially, to be able to defy social custom for the sake of saving their children. The reality is just the opposite. The slightest transgression, especially by women, will upset huge networks and topple all social stability. No one will marry someone from a “shamed” family; that family will be forever ostracized, impoverished, and may also die out genetically. Mothers, fathers, relatives are loyal to their tribal social customs rather than to any one individual, even if that individual is their own child. The system itself demands and allows for such barbarism—but the sacrifice of the individual is seen as in the service of the greater tribal and caste based social structure or “civilization.”

In addition, woman’s inhumanity to woman is a common phenomenon in India where mothers-in-law routinely assist their sons in burning their daughters-in-law to death. This is known as a “dowry killing” because it is done so that a new bride can bring another dowry into the impoverished and/or greedy family. There is actually a special wing in a prison in New Delhi for such mothers-in-law. In addition, female infanticide was a long-time practice in both India and China. Both women and men steal children in India and sell them to be adopted abroad or, more frequently, to be groomed into sexual slavery either at home or abroad. A dear friend is visiting me from India right now and her stories on this subject are unbelievable — and yet all too believable.

Surveys have shown us that women in India believe that women deserve to be beaten. Perhaps they are also saying that women should simply expect this to happen. Many Hindu and Muslim mothers refuse to accept severely battered child-daughter brides back into their home. In Afghanistan, this often leads to suicide, often self-immolation as well.

To its credit, the Indian Supreme Court has recently declared that “It is time to stamp out these barbaric, feudal practices which are a slur on our nation.”

Once again, the major mainstream media in the United States have, thus far, failed to do any original stories about this awful case. The Washington Post relied again on an AP story. The New York Times has neither published nor posted anything.

In the past, the Washington Post has only covered Hindu honor killings in India. This time, they were forced to use the word “Muslim” to identify the perpetrators. The victims were not identified as “Muslims.”

That only happens when Israelis or Americans have killed them.

  • PhillipGaley

    Although, from time to time, there is some complaint against the one who uses what are called epithets of sub-humanity, the Bible uses a particular word to identify the unconditional love which a mother bears toward her child, I think that, as here laid out, the deeds of these mothers—and, all such, and with the lack of sense of loss or remorse—do belie what was their own place in the human struggle; in sensibility, plainly do they appear to have removed themselves to a par with the lower animal kingdom.
    In all this, I'm glad that, I'm not G0D, nor acting as the Popes' claim, in HIS place because, there would sure be a lotta dead Middle Eastern bodies—while there are good people over there, there are just not enough to balance out to stop population reduction. Again, good thing I'm not G0D, . . . I believe I'd lay 'em out, . . . with a firm hand, . . . appropriately hard, . . .

  • voted against carter

    ' TAQIYYA '
    Do your own research about it if you don't know what this means.

    Islam IS EVIL. PERIOD.

    Islam strives for world domination.

    The Quran commands Muslims to exercise jihad.

    The Quran commands Muslims to establish shariah law.

    The Quran commands Muslims to impose Islam on the entire world.

    Islam is NOT a religion, it IS a totalitarian ideology.

    Islam wants to dominate all aspects of life, from the cradle to the grave.

    Shariah law is a law that controls every detail of life in a Islamic society.

    From civic- and family law to criminal law.

    It determines how one should eat, dress and even use the toilet.

    Oppression of women is good, drinking alcohol is bad.

    The core of the Quran is the call to jihad.

    Jihad means a lot of things and is Arabic for battle.

    Islam means submission, there cannot be any mistake about its goal.

    Islam and freedom, Islam and democracy are not compatible.

    They are opposite values.

    Mohamed's "wife" was six years old.

    That makes Mohamed a PEDOPHILE!!!

    And you want to base a "Religion" on this a z z -holes rantings?

    Are you INSANE?

    • Bill

      Well said! There is no such thing as "moderate Islam", only Muslims who do not adhere to their religion.

  • Grizz

    Disgusting practice,however,the photo used in THIS report is obviously not from the death of a girl who was merly strangled—

  • ziontruth

    This puts a serious dent in the claim that reform for Islam will begin with their women.

    Interestingly, Jewish religious anthropology has it that Islam, as the Arab religion and fulfillment of Abraham's wish (that Ishmael would live before him), originates with the mother (Hagar), not with the father (Abraham). Islam inherited the correct theological view (of monotheism) from Abraham, but the deviations in practice (the Koran and all its laws that HaShem never commanded) from the Egyptian slave-girl.

    Honor-murders apart, it looks as if the role of Muslim women (those who toe the line and therefore are not honor-murdered) in the shaping of the future foot-soldiers of Islam has received little attention so far. Which is a mistake, because then people go thinking that injecting some of the "Girls Just Wanna Have Fun" spirit is going to change things.

  • g_jochnowitz

    Events like this happen again and again. Most feminists, most human-rights activists, and all leftists keep quiet. For those on the left, anti-Zionism takes precedence over every other issue.

  • http://mypage.direct.ca/l/lbouchar/ SeaMystic

    SICK!

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    Total War against Islam is needed.

  • http://mypage.direct.ca/l/lbouchar/ SeaMystic

    Repeat: Sign the "Ban Islam" petition at: http://www.petitiononline.com/MYSTIC/petition.htm

  • g_jochnowitz

    Iceland has done a good deed. http://www.icenews.is/index.php/2011/05/17/sakine
    I hadn't known they cared about helping Muslim women under sentence of death. Maybe one day they will also care about daughters getting murdered by their mothers.

  • Supreme_Galooty

    Three jolly Musselmen sat in a bloody abatoir
    Three jolly Musselmen sat in a bloody abatoir
    Three jolly Musselmen sat in a bloody abatoir

    And they decided
    And they decided
    And they decided

    To kill their lovely daughter.

  • Robert Weller

    I wonder which is more important to a Muslim woman? The right to be the victim of an honor killing, the right to wear a veil, or the right to drive a car?

  • kafir4life

    Why is this news? Would you read a story about a Jew lighting candles on the Sabbath? Would you read a story about a Catholic praying the Rosary? This is just islam. Nothing more. Nothing less. It's just what they do, it's part of their faith, leave them alone to practice their faith as its inventor, the madman and pedophile mohamat commanded.

    Did you know the reason that the FBI said the bombing of a Synagogue didn't rise to the level of "terrorism"? They don't want to end up in court for depriving muslims of their civil right to kill Jews as per the koran.

  • sodacrackers

    How many girls have been lured back to their family of origin by their own mothers and sisters only to be killed? Phyllis, when you wrote, "…life without a family network is unthinkable for someone whose identity is not individual but rather located in a collectivity," I could not help thinking of the leftists in our own country who at least claim to believe in "collective" salvation and liberation theology. And then of course, most of the main stream media, who have sold their individual souls to the "collective."

  • tanstaafl

    The facts of the "Hindu Holocaust" (the attempted conquest of the Sind by the forces of Islam) are slowing becoming known to Western audiences. It is one of the most unspeakable crimes against humanity.

    I, myself, did not know the full extent of this history of mass slaughter, enslavement and conversion until quite recently. I would call the actions of Muslims in India savagery but that is a disservice to savages.

    • 2maxpower

      yes. I was working in India last year. there is a very big difference when in a muslim dominated area or a Hindu one. The mulim one is unpleasant to hostile.

      The muslims always try to destroy the history of the local people as part of their campaign to subjugate. If (unfortunately ins't) history was taught honestly then there would be no talk of islam as it would not exist. Definitely not in conquered areas which is most all of it.

      Regards

      • MegRyan

        I work with two Hindu Indian ladies. Talking to them has been very enlightening. They've known about Islam's savagery and are slightly amused that we are only now waking up to the reality.

        • 2maxpower

          …yes, if one can call it amusing.

          regards

  • Richard Aubrey

    Seems the two girls were taking immense risks–the article explains why they had to have known–to avoid Muslim men.

  • MRobs

    Only in the "religion of peace" would two mothers think it is perfectly acceptable to murder their own children. These koranimals need to be erradicated from the planet.

  • http://islamsfatalflaw.blogspot.com/ Bob Smith

    Would you wear a T-shirt with a Mohammad cartoon printed on it?

    You might in Montana. Don’t try it in Mecca.

    Why?

    Because, Islam trains a small number of its most devout believers it’s OK to kill. And Islamic killers have been trained to kill anyone who insults Allah and/or Mohammad.

    In Montana you’d have a good chance none of these Islamic killers would see you.

    In Mecca you wouldn’t last five minutes. One of Islam’s killers would come from out of nowhere and kill you. It is that simple.

    You don’t believe me? Ask any Muslim!

    To understand Islam read http://islamsfatalflaw.blogspot.com/

  • ActiVist

    Osho was remembering us which Culture/Civilization was there in India, before it changed. See: Kajouraho's temples and feminine Goddesses (first) and Araboislamic gender Apartheid and sexual Obsessions (second), remembering that Araboislamic Jihadists invaded India and its original Cutlure/Civilization. Appearently even women's veiling was brought to India by Araboislamic invaders. The true plight is mothers and fathers, parents and adults, who think that they are allowed to kill youngs and girls, a.k.a. the Future: which Evolution might there be, where elderlies kill their daughters and sons? That's sick, in fact: children are more important than parents; that's how Evolution, and Life, works. Otherwise it is Death. I think a problem within Araboislamic society is that they give birth to too many kids: killing one or another is not a Problem to them (Araboislamic parents and community's members). And I think childhood Psychology might explain a lot about women's evil behaviour to females (and mothers' evil behaviour to children): and/but I fear that Araboislamicity even refuses Psychology, therefore – at this point – there is no hope of improvement within the Araboislamic/-ized world.

  • walt

    Certainly the act of killing your own child in an 'Honor Killing' is the height of an unbalanced mind – but how is it any worse than regular or late term abortion ?

    • ActiVist

      Well, very realistically speaking, one might abort since external conditions are unlucky to the child. Let's think of those who give birth to (so many, or just few) kids, but have no food or higienic cares or simply proper affection and love to offer them: is that life, is that love for the kid, or is it rather in-/directly torturing him or her? I think that a woman would keep her baby, if this is realistically possible, since aborting is a trauma for the woman/female/(future) mother self, (not only for the aborted/killed creature). In my opinion "honor" killers (see reasons why they kill their dauthers and sons) should rather … commit suicide … themselves, rather than giving birth to kids, demonizing abortion, and then oppressing them, cheating them and eventually murdering them. (I know, it is/sound gruesome, but that's what Psychology calls Thanatos …). I think Psychologist Phyllis Chesler might explain us better about love (for) life, Eros, and hate (for) life (Thanatos), and their expressions (…). Bright regards.

  • Gunnhild

    Mothers killing children is not new, not in the least. Probably the most famous and long lasting mother-child killing is in Medea, written/produced in 431 BC by Euripedes. Is it horrible, absolutely. But new, not in the least.

    • ActiVist

      1) I think the problem altogether is violence and abuses against children (weaker), and that from adults (stronger), eventually from parents, be them fathers/males/boys/men or mothers/females/girls/women.
      2) In the case of Araboislamicity the cultural Tribality and the Clan's/mafious social organization, is another to be (separately) taken into account.
      3) If I'm not completely wrong, I think that from Medea's time some 2400+ years have gone by, and that we (in the West) have some modern constitutional Rights and a Chart of the Right of the Child (dated 1989), which should differentiate "us" from Medeans.

    • nina

      Really? First of all, this is not a fact. Second, how many Medeas were there ?

  • PowerPC1

    Animals pure and simple…

    "but the sacrifice of the individual is seen as in the service of the greater tribal and caste based social structure or “civilization.”

    Civilization? There is no true civilization that allows such attitudes and heinous crimes against their daughters and wives. This is purely barbaric… despite their Quran they will pay the price when God comes calling.

  • GregZ

    " Two Muslim mothers, both widows, both living in Uttar Pradesh in India, helped each other murder their grown daughters, Zahida, 19, and Husna, 26, for having committed the crime of marrying Hindu men." Another prime example of Islam being the religion of "peace."

  • anonymous

    islam is a not a peaceful religion at all…they teach their kids to kill right from the early age.The ulitmate goal of islam is to bring the whole world under islamic law shariyah and they are silently closing their goal day by day. At some day i used to see not a single women in burkha around my locality but now i see a few of them. Islam was born in arabian peninsula and spread around forcibly slaughtering raping genocide and taking slaves. Islam has cost more than 120 million of innocent lives and it's still going on bleeding us(kufir's).They were bron in a place where they had no resources and no facilities to breed in. But they are sneaking to countries like america europe india south east asian countries, using our resources they are mulitiplying like pests and no doubt at the end they will be bleeding the very same peoples who are being so compassionate to these paracites…so it's time to wake up all or us christians jews sikhs hindus buddhists against islam…