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The decline and fall of a society can be measured in statistics like these. The decline of marriage has long since been paired with a decline in relationships in general. Pregnancy and even abortion rates are falling. Families are breaking up or not even forming. More and more Americans are living on their own.
Nearly 30 percent of American households comprise a single person, a record high.
Scholars say living alone is not a trend so much as a transformation: Across much of the world, large numbers of people are living alone for the first time in recorded history.
“It’s just a stunning social change,” said Eric Klinenberg, a sociologist at New York University and author of the book “Going Solo.” “I came to see it as the biggest demographic change in the last century that we failed to recognize and take seriously.”
Friendships, extended families, are also coming apart. People live online lives. And they die online.
The U.S. Census shows that “solitaries” made up 8 percent of all households in 1940. The share of solo households doubled to 18 percent in 1970 and more than tripled, to an estimated 29 percent, by 2022.
The solo-living movement intersects with several other societal trends. Americans are marrying later, if at all. The nation is aging. The national birthrate is falling. People are living longer — or they were, until the pandemic arrived.
We’re ‘extinctioning’ ourselves. While we are being conquered, much like the Japanese who aren’t being invaded, we’re also ushering ourselves to the civilizational exit.
Living alone is much more common in large cities. Singles now make up more than 40 percent of households in Atlanta, Seattle, San Francisco, Minneapolis and Denver, according to a paper by the British historian Keith Snell. Half of all Manhattan dwellings are one-person residences. Snell identified a Midtown Census tract where 94 percent of households comprised a single person.
The 15-minute city for the 15-minute life.
“Living alone can be a dream come true,” said Bella DePaulo, author of the forthcoming book “Single at Heart.”
Solitary living means “you get to curate your own life,” she said. “You decide when to go to sleep and when to get up, what and when to eat, what to watch or to listen to for entertainment, and how warm or cool your place will be.” No more fighting over the thermostat.
No more future.
An outstanding article about how society is changing. The single life can be a very lonely one as well. If you meet, fall in love with the right person, a married life is the best.
Well, that’s not his article. He’s copying and pasting someone else’s article. But the issue is interesting. It’s all the woke communist Islamist pedophile Left’s fault, right?
No, go ahead and put the blame where the “woke” puts the blame for all that ails us: Trump/Russia collusion.
Everything is your fault, cumwad.
Just to be clear, yes. Yes, it is.
Definitely, although don’t jump into marriage.
There are a lot of psychos out there, like my ex wife. What a nightmare that gooky, “Oh me so horny, me love you long time” slut pig dog whore she turned out to be. And she spent my money like a drunken sailor.
Very important topic. I first began to notice that in India 1981-2. Even though their economy was much less than ours, their larger family structure made it possible to support the large population.
Another factor here in USA is greed. Once they have made their pile, they feel like they don’t need their family any more.
I know a few guys that are in or near their 40’s and some dont even date, all live alone….. 2000sqft home and a dog.
Even the dog probably wants a wife and kids in the house.jk
These guys know there is a problem with how they are living, they just are not doing anything about it.
An old friend of mine kind of ”got stuck” with his elderly mother. He was the youngest in the family, his father died too young, and there he was last in the house and stuck with mom. She was a good person and ”stuck” is a bad way of explaining, its just the way it was. Anyhow, once the opportunity came available, and already in his 40’s, he got the hell with it, used every dating site he could, met a woman, got married and made a family. They are quite happy.
These solo sissies could learn something from him.
Roberta,
Wonderful. However, the consequences (there are many) are less parental energy and playing the dual role of parent and grandparent; with much less time in the spouse or child’s life — if this is a variable. Lastly, the child will encounter the burden of caring (if applicable) for aging parents sooner.
Roberta,
In Joost Meerloo’s book Rape of the Mind: Chapter ten titled ‘The Child is Father to the Man’ is applicable to this article. I highly recommend this book, which can be used as one more filter on how we process information we witness on a daily basis.
Any guy who wants to live alone has serious issues, in my opinion. For every downside of living with a chick, there are ten upsides.
I mean, who doesn’t want to get laid every night and every morning? It’s better than desert or coffee.
Coffee doesn’t keep talking when it is being consumed. Desert sometimes moves more than a partner.
LOL! Good points.
But I still prefer living with chicks to living alone. It just has to be a good chick.
Whoever down voted me sucks crusty dead Taliban ass and swallows the chunks.
Chomo.
God’s wisdom shows itself in multiple personality disorder.
As they say, “WTF?”
Is it really talking to oneself if there’s more one personality involved in the conversation?
In case the presence is sequential, not simultaneous, and one fades out before the other fades in, they could leave each other post-it™ notes.
I’m pulling your leg. The remark was unserious.
FWIW, the Beatles released an album with a song upon the subject some two thirds of my life ago.
A bunch of homos and lezbos, if you ask me.
Whoever down voted me sucks donkey balls.
One family in one body, you never get lonely. But going to potty multiple times a day with no privacy, well, nothing in life comes unalloyed.
Lol.
One toothbrush.
You get used to it. Women aren’t sexy when they’re crapping and neither are men, I reckon, but besides the smell, it’s no big deal.
Being SELFISH is facilitated with a partner requiring compromise.
Yes, they can close the door and lock it if they want. I wouldn’t mind. They never seem to do that, though.
“…“You decide when to go to sleep and when to get up, what and when to eat, what to watch or to listen to…”
Funny. That is exactly the opposite message the left sells us about diversity. Supposedly the “richness of life” comes from embracing others and their cultures and values. It is how we grow as a society. So, what difference does diversity make if everybody lives alone and doesn’t even interact others?
Sometimes di-versity needs a different prefix.
This will probably sound terrible but just look at how much life has changed since pairing off was common: at least 50% of Americans are obese, making them unattractive, hence repellent to potential partners. People used to be raised with virtues and morals. My friends began drinking heavily at age 12. Many went to rehab in high school. Who could truly trust such a group? I lived in Brooklyn for years and I can’t tell you how many alcoholics I know– and I’ve never had a drink in my life.
The songs, films and shows encourage people to do what they want, what suits them, to unravel and be wild. Now the models even encourage people to be gross, fat and ugly.
The parents and teachers must be the worst. They encourage selfishness and fake high self esteem in young people which makes them lazy, deflated and conceited. Somewhere near half of females are on psych meds and the number of male and female stoners are off the charts. Americans are NOT what they used to be so before everyone castigates the single people for having standards, please understand all of the bullets that are actually being dodged.
I’m not saying fat druggies shouldn’t marry eachother, I’m just saying the quality of person isn’t what it once was.
Carolyn,
I empathize with your frustration. Everyone must shoulder different burdens in this life, and there are varying reasons for these burdens (internal and external). In my opinion, the social engineering aspects of present in all types of media, were present in past times too. The “engineers” of the past employed subtleties designed to bypass social awareness as they do today, and will continue to employ in the future.
Most fat chicks are gross. Some have nice bodies underneath their blubber but many don’t. The ones with nice figures underneath have more cushion to the pushin.’
There is still no more future with childless marriage.
Kynarion,
There is a future in Heaven. And, there will be no marrying. The Lord calls whom He has chosen.
Yes. You are right.
But the earthly kingdom is also God’s, as is our time living in it. God cares for His earthly kingdom as well. And there is still joy and goodness in it. It is right and pleasing to God to seek our own good here, as well as the good of our children and neighbors.
I think marriage and children can be the source of greatest joy, and we need to work to create a society in which marriage and children have a future. Right now, our children are filled with despair and confusion, and we must live in a way that fights the forces and spirit that is doing this to them.
Who sez we can’t get married in Heaven?
Jesus says it.
https://biblehub.com/matthew/22-30.htm
Well, OK then. That’s bad news.
But I can still shack up, right? 🙂
And who doesn’t love kids? Even their voices are soothing. Like when you hear them in a playground or schoolyard.
There are people who HATE children. Can’t imagine that, but it is true. But, I am with you. I adore them and find the sounds of them playing to be very pleasing.
Yeah, well, you’re normal. I can’t really imagine people who hate kids although I believe they exist. Psychos.
The question is WHY are so many people living alone, not getting married, or not having children. And are the consequences really dire or not, and is this phenomenon permanent or will it reverse itself? I have not found a satisfying analysis and answer to these questions.
As always presented this is simply scaremongering of the Global Warming/Climate Change type. OK, the average global temperature has gone up one degree in the last hundred years, what of it? What does it really mean?
“It means the world is coming to an end!” — YAWN.
“More Americans are living alone, not getting married, not having children, the world is coming to an end!” Oh brother.
Meanwhile, the Turd World is breeding like bunnies.
Not good.
Elon Musk has a lot of children by multiple women. It must be difficult to keep everybody happy.
Well, he can afford the kiddies, I guess. I hope he’s part of their lives, though. Every kid needs a father and mother.
They succeeded in the FUNDAMENTAL CHANGE of America. Now it is ripe for the promised takeover.
yet another gift of feminism, joining below-replacement fertility and the social pathologies rampant on our streets.
I live in a one person household but I can’t say I like it. I’m an old fashioned guy and I like going to sleep and waking up with a chick in my arms.
Bella DePaulo is a dumb, lying bitch. Living alone means you’re lonely most of the time, you usually go to sleep and wake up hugging your pillow instead of a person, whatever food you make is too much to eat and you don’t experience the novel enjoyment that watching or listening to something your significant other enjoys. (I can do without romantic comedies and other chick flicks, though. An occasional romantic comedy but no Hallmark or Lifetime Channel crap.)
I HATE living alone. But then, I’m not a psycho like DePaulo. Women can be irritating but they’re worth the effort.
You are very normal in your feelings. I hope you find a beautiful, faithful wife who looks fantastic and loves to drink beer and eat lots of food with you while staying trim and full of desire for you.
Wow! Thanks! That sounds like a dream woman. And if she can cook…..I’m in love! The desire part is easy but not all women can cook. I can though, so I guess that doesn’t matter.
My husband says “Just show up naked with food and I am happy.” I know he is joking, but on another level, he is totally serious!
About the desire part – women are wired differently. Yes anyone can feel “horny,” but generally women are turned on by emotional intimacy which develops into the sexual. The emotional part develops trust and admiration. Sex is done with more than the body.
Your husband sounds cool.
Yeah, the sex is much better when you’re in love. I had a real lover recently but we broke up. She thought I was disloyal and that I “ghosted” her, and I thought she was paranoid and overly suspicious.
I’ll get her back, though. I’m not angry anymore so I figure it’s only a matter of time. You know how you chicks get when you’re angry, though……….I’m going to have to work at it. She comes around when I need help so I’ll have to figure out something I need help with.
Living as a single and having no regrets about the lack of children and grandchildren is narcissism writ large
Soocieties and civiilzations, ;like species that don’t replicate die-it is as simple as that